How can I be a Leader?

Are you a leader or a follower? Most of us would respond: Leader. Of the two choices I've given you, "leader" sounds better than "follower." Wouldn't you agree?

Are we all leaders? We say we are, but are we? We don't want to be leaders. It's easier to follow someone. We like to go with the crowd. The truth is most of us are followers, not leaders.

Are you the CEO of your company? Do you head up any kind of organization? Does anyone even look up to you?

Are you a leader?

You might not know it yet. But there are people looking for you to lead them. There are simply not enough quality leaders in life. You presently possess qualities that can make you a leader. There are accomplishments and skills you possess that others want.

It is up to you, if you choose to, to help these people. They may be your friends, your family, your coworkers. Take a look around. Is there something you possess that people around you want? I'm sure there is at least one....

I recently left a temp job at a call center. For me it was always temporary. For most of my coworkers, they are looking to make it permanent. But I also see and feel and hear that they don't really enjoy working at the call center. Friday was my last day there. All the people I had the pleasure of getting to know knew of my departure. Many didn't know where I was going until my last day. They were all so excited for me. They heard the new company I was going to work for was a great place to work. They all asked me for the hook up. They wanted to follow me.

Start listening and getting to know people a little more. You'll be surprised how many people need and want you to lead them.

What's the Worst that could Happen?

I'm pretty sure this has got to be a low point in my nearly 30 years of existence. I'm over $70,000 in credit card debt.
I'm trying to dump 2 bad real estate deals.
I just found out that 2 of my properties may already have been auctioned off.

I had to give up the best apartment I've ever lived in. I lied by ommission to my gf about my financial situation.We aren't broken up but we won't be living together for a while. To be more precise, I'm technically homeless.
I sold or gave away most of my stuff.

I'm selling my car. Which happens to be the best car I've ever had. The stuff I do have is stashed with my gf and homie.

I'm working a shitty temp job at a call center. (I don't care how much you LOVE the people at work. A shit job is still a shit job.)It's shitty for me because it pays not enough. What's worse is how great people can become less than great when they are being paid to let people dump on them. I got what I asked for: "Lindsey, I want to get paid the most for the least amount of work." I got what I asked for.

I don't have a real job,
I'm not doing any real business.
I'm not selling anything,
I'm not getting paid for anything
My book is not done.
I haven't done any talks all summer.
I've just been "omitting" to myself.


How I'm feeling?

1. I'm at the bottom of a well. I see the light above me. but it looks like I need to climb about 200 feet straight up to get out of the mess I'm in.

2. I've built up this nice looking house. It looks nice but the workmanship isn't. I'm standing in the middle of my house and the walls are falling all around me. What I've built up is falling on me.

3. helpless. weak. embarrassed. unworthy. like a failure. like i've let down myself and those I love the most.

What you don't know is that I feel and know that my friends and family are looking to me to lead them. They want someone to show them a way out of their current situations. Into a more secure, abundant and fulfilling life. I know this. I feel this. I have accepted this great honor.

This is why I feel so terrible about my current situation. Trust me, I've beat myself up pretty bad. Have you seen the movie Fight Club? Remember the first time Ed Norton beat the shit out of Brad Pitt? That's what I've done to myself inside my mind.

HOW CAN I HELP ANYONE, IF I CAN'T EVEN HELP MYSELF! I fucked up. I got to start over. This is the worst that could happen. When you take a shot and come up short...All you can do is get up. Dust yourself off. And keep moving.

Lesson 1: PERSISTENCE. The faster you can get up after a fall, the farther ahead you will go.

Lesson 2: PATIENCE. Don't be so hard on yourself. Anything worthwhile takes practice and work.

Lesson 3: PERSPECTIVE. If you are still ALIVE after your entire WORLD falls apart, THAT AIN'T BAD!